Friday, April 9, 2010

In It For REAL Life

My husband and I are not perfect. Far from it, in fact. Sometimes we argue and sometimes we disagree. Sometimes we are in bad moods and sometimes the natural stresses of each and every day take their toll on the two of us. That doesn't make us any less in love though, it makes us human.

I know that my children are watching my husband and I. I know that they can pick up on our moods and on our good days as a couple and our bad ones. And I know that the example that we are setting for them now will influence the way that they map out their futures.

I have a hard time pulling the June Cleaver act in front of my kids, because lets me realistic here, no one is that freaking perfect and to me putting on a front and pretending to be something that I'm not, that my marriage is not, would be setting up my children for failure. I think that it's my duty as a good mother to provide them with a realistic view of what happens in a committed relationship.

Now that's not that say that my husband and I argue or fight in front of our children. But we do sometimes argue and part of life is holding your tongue until the appropriate moment, if there is one at all. I want my kids to learn that.

I firmly believe that my marriage is a prototype for the kinds of marriages that my kids will have. It's something that I have to work at. It's hard and is often times unpredictable. But I have a partner in this world for life and knowing that and feeling the love that surrounds our home makes it all worth working for.


  1. Ohhh, what a good post! Loved it.
    I can't really relate, yet though...but I enjoy reading posts like this.
    And I adore that picture. LOL

  2. That fortune cookie is so true. :o) Very thoughtful post Amanda. I hope the same thing, that my kids will have good healthy relationships as adults as well.

  3. A wonderful post, Amanda! And I love the fortune cookie. It really made me chuckle.

    But, I think it's really quite true. Better to give them a good idea of what it takes to stick it out than for them to have "impossible" (because my brain is mush, and I can't, for the life of me remember the word I'm actually looking for at the moment) expectations going into a relationship and give up too soon because "this doesn't look like mom and dad's relationship"...

  4. Will and I have about one fight every six months... and its always pretty little and rarely are we mad for long... but my kids FREQUENTLY shout, "MOMMY and DADDY, STOP FIGHTING! Its making us upset!" and we have absolutely no idea why.

    So funny. We pull the June Cleaver act all they time and my kids are always looking for more drama! :D You can never please 'em.

  5. What can I say, I'm a fighter. I'm all peaks & valleys, so when I'm mad, watch out! The Man knows this -- or at least he should after 17 years. The other night, he promised he'd have our 5yo son home for dinner at 7:30. At 8:00 he comes waltzing in the door. I was mad. Everyone knew I was going to be. My son looked up at at my husband and said, "Daddy, you really should keep your promises." I just looked at my husband in amazement and said, "Yeah...what HE said!" It was so funny. I'm gonna let my boy do all my fighting for me from now on;D


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