Friday, April 9, 2010
My husband and I are not perfect. Far from it, in fact. Sometimes we argue and sometimes we disagree. Sometimes we are in bad moods and sometimes the natural stresses of each and every day take their toll on the two of us. That doesn't make us any less in love though, it makes us human.
I know that my children are watching my husband and I. I know that they can pick up on our moods and on our good days as a couple and our bad ones. And I know that the example that we are setting for them now will influence the way that they map out their futures.
I have a hard time pulling the June Cleaver act in front of my kids, because lets me realistic here, no one is that freaking perfect and to me putting on a front and pretending to be something that I'm not, that my marriage is not, would be setting up my children for failure. I think that it's my duty as a good mother to provide them with a realistic view of what happens in a committed relationship.
Now that's not that say that my husband and I argue or fight in front of our children. But we do sometimes argue and part of life is holding your tongue until the appropriate moment, if there is one at all. I want my kids to learn that.
I firmly believe that my marriage is a prototype for the kinds of marriages that my kids will have. It's something that I have to work at. It's hard and is often times unpredictable. But I have a partner in this world for life and knowing that and feeling the love that surrounds our home makes it all worth working for.