Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Your "Friend" Card Has Been Revoked

I'm on notice and have been informed that...SweetPea is no longer my friend. Well, for about 10 minutes the other day, anyway. I can only imagine she picked up that gem of a phrase at school. It's certainly nothing we would say here at home and there isn't a show I can think of on TV that I'd let her watch that would use it either. Regardless of where she heard it...I was on the receiving end of it. What inspired her to revoke the friend privilege? If I remember correctly, SweetPea was playing learning games on the computer and I told her that she'd had enough and that she needed to find something else to play with. Clearly that wasn't a popular decision. To be honest, it's not the first time she's told me "Mommy, you're not my friend". That honor came when I told her that I couldn't take her to China. Am I a mean mom or what?

After the first time, I tried to tell her she wasn't being very nice and that it hurt my feelings when told me that she didn't want to be my friend. I told her that I loved HER and that sometimes, even though she might do something that didn't make me happy, that I'd always be her friend. I'll admit, that first time, it did hurt my feelings, if just a little, even though I understood that she was saying it because she was angry that I told her no. Eventually she apologized and told me that I was "still her friend". I thought the lesson was learned...until the other day we had a repeat performance...and not only did she tell me that she wasn't my friend, but she rambled off a list of people who WERE her friends...but not me..."Lil Buddy's my friend...Baby Rosa (her teddy bear) is my friend...Queen Narissa (her stuffed, purple dragon) is my friend...Maw Maw is my friend...Grammy is my friend...but you aren't my friend". This time, I had to keep myself from laughing. I don't know why, but it was funny. So again...we have the talk. This time she doesn't say much, but about 5 minutes later she begs me to help her with something and I shoot back "well, you know, if I was your friend, I'd help, but since I'm not your friend, I'm not sure why you'd want me to help you." Voila...we're friends again.

At the end of the day, I know what she's trying to tell me that she's not happy about something I've told her. Obviously, saying "no" isn't always going to be popular, but it is a necessary evil. The funny thing...I think it's finally setting in. Yesterday afternoon, SweetPea was getting very frustrated that something wasn't working right for her and she asked me for help...then got mad that what I did to help was NOT what she wanted me to do...she threw mini fit and I sent her to her room...which of course made her REALLY mad. When I went to talk to her in her room she told me "Mommy, you made me very upset and I'm sad"...which in the long run, is what I think she meant all along by "you're not my friend anymore". And to think...we still have the teenage years...UGH!


  1. Love it! We get something similiar at our house. "I love you mom, but I don't love daddy." There is no rhyme or reason to it, so we just smile and go about our biz. Pretty soon, they love daddy again. :)

  2. Hahaha, aw, I feel for ya. My kids aren't in school yet, so they don't know about the whole 'You're not my friend' thing... I'm not gonna lie... I'm a bit glad. That doesn't sound like a nice thing to hear for the first time, and I'm still loving the fact that Gracie tells me daily, "Mommy, you're my very best friend in the whole wide world"

    But ahahahaha, I loved the whole part where she felt compelled to tell you who was her friend!!

  3. I'm Braydens best friend in the summer and when theres no one else around, but anytime we're out and about in public or at one of his baseball games or a school function its "Mom, go away, I'm hanging out with my friends"

    *sigh* I always knew that one day being with mom would be uncool, but I wasn't prepared for it to be this soon!

  4. Marisa, thought the whole laundry list of friends was funny too. It reminded me of Kindergarten Cop where the kid tells him all of the people who are better teachers than him. Ah-nold asks the kid "is there anyone who isn't better than me?" and the kid says "I don't know...I'm six, I don't know that many people"

  5. I haven't had that one pulled on me.... yet. I'm dreading the "I hate you" days to come. I think it's unavoidable. I guess I should savor my "coolness" whilst I still have it. I still have it right?

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